“The principal concern for women is not having an orgasm. But a woman has to take responsibility for her own orgasms.” ~Dr. Ruth Westheimer
Orgasms; the medical books define them as a climax of sexual stimulation. Our bodies tell us they are one of, if not the, best feelings in the world; though not everyone has experienced the magical moment of bliss.
A flush of heat surges through our bodies and our vaginal walls start to secrete lubrication. The vagina and clit are already flooded with blood that has rushed towards them, engorging and increasing their sensitivity. Breathing starts to speed up and our heart rate increases. Erect nipples protrude from our chests as our arousal intensifies –the big O is near. The lower part of our vaginas narrow in order to grip the penis while the upper part gets bigger to give it a place to go. When we can no longer take the stimulation of nerves in our clits or g-spots, our body releases the buildup of tension. Involuntary muscles within our bodies contract, which is the cause of the “orgasm face” and gives explanation for the toe curling that is often described as happening when we reach an orgasm and cum.
While our pussies are palpitating, the actual orgasm is happening in our brains. It is flooded with oxytocin, a powerful chemical that inspires feelings of closeness and intimacy.
Check out these other 26 facts out about orgasms that you may not know.
- The word orgasm is from the Greek word orgasmos, which is defined as “to swell or be excited.”
- Most women reach orgasms through clitoral stimulation. Only around 25% of women can reach an orgasm through vaginal penetration alone.
- After a man experiences an orgasm, there is a “refractory period” where they need to recharge. Because of this down time, men do not often experience repeated orgasms, though there are some claims of it happening. Women, on the other hand, can have multiple orgasms at a time.
- Almost half of women have their first orgasm while masturbating versus having it during intercourse.
- Though some women use the excuse of “not tonight, I’ve got a headache” for not wanting to have sex, an orgasm can actually cure or provide relief for a headache.
- Vibrators were invented to help doctors bring women to an orgasm, for treatment of hysteria.
- A woman’s orgasm can last up to 20 seconds but the average length of time is around eight seconds.
- The inability to reach an orgasm after ample sexual stimulation is called anorgasmia; and is a common occurrence affecting a significant amount of women.
- Some people can reach an orgasm by simply thinking of an orgasm without any other stimulation.
- Not all orgasms are felt with same intensity. They can be a subtle and mild relaxing feeling.
- Strengthening the pelvic floor muscles through Kegel exercises can help with the intensity of an orgasm. The contractions experienced during an orgasm may not be as intense if the pelvic floor muscles are weak.
- Many women don’t have to have an orgasm to enjoy sex. They claim the closeness and intimacy with their partner, alone, is gratifying and pleasurable enough for them.
- During an orgasm our bodies release the hormone prolactin, which causes the brain to produce more neurons in the smell center, or olfactory bulb, of our brains and heightens our sense of smell.
- An orgasm does not increase the chances of conception as was once believed in the early 1900s.
- August 8th is International Female Orgasm Day. It was established to raise awareness of female sexuality and to encourage women to be more open about discussing their sex lives.
- Men’s orgasms stimulate the same area of the brain that heroin does.
- Wearing a condom doesn’t affect the quality of an orgasm.
- The ability to orgasm, for those that achieve it, does not stop at a certain age. Some people can experience them past the age of 90, though the duration of orgasms tend to decrease as we age.
- For some women, stimulation of their nipples can increase their chances of having an orgasm as well as the intensity of it.
- Vaginal lubricant and female ejaculate are two types of fluid that are associated with the female orgasm.
- Women who feel secure in their relationships are more likely to experience an orgasm.
- The French refer to an orgasm as the le petit mort, which means “the little death”.
- Some women experience orgasms while giving birth.
- While steroids, cocaine, and dopamine have positive effects on orgasms, anti-depressants can have a negative effect on them.
- A female in London set a record in 2006, for the most orgasms in a single masturbation period of 49 orgasms.
- It’s been reported that a high number of women, around 67%, fake orgasms.
That last one is something that I’ve thought about a lot; I’ve also had a lot of orgasms. I will never understand how a woman can fake one and it be believable. I guess a woman could fake the moaning part, like Meg Ryan did in the famous orgasm scene in “When Harry Met Sally”, but we lose control of both our minds and bodies for a certain amount of time during and after an orgasm; that can’t be faked.
I originally wrote this for livingloving.com.