Escaladed to Freedom: An erotic story of escape, protection, and freedom.

Cole Hatfield is a lonely Army veteran that is readjusting to civilian life in a small Texas town after having been medically evacuated from Afghanistan. Acclimation to his old lifestyle is taking him longer than he thought it would. There was not anyone waiting on him when he got home and most of his friends have moved on with their lives. Cole only has his faithful German shepherd, Rocco, to spend his days with.

One night Rocco hears something outside and wakes Cole from his sleep. It is not a burglar or prowler, it is a young woman in desperate need of help. She has fled her abusive boyfriend and is on the run. The protector in Cole springs to life and he takes her into his house.

Though they came together under unfortunate circumstances they have a strong belief that everything happens for a reason and both are looking forward to what the future holds for them.

This book has graphic adult material and is meant to be read by those that are 18 years of age and older. This book is a little over 7,200 words.

Escaladed to Freedom: An erotic story of escape, protection, and freedom.

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Orgasms: 26 Facts About The Big O!

“The principal concern for women is not having an orgasm. But a woman has to take responsibility for her own orgasms.” ~Dr. Ruth Westheimer

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Orgasms; the medical books define them as a climax of sexual stimulation. Our bodies tell us they are one of, if not the, best feelings in the world; though not everyone has experienced the magical moment of bliss.

A flush of heat surges through our bodies and our vaginal walls start to secrete lubrication. The vagina and clit are already flooded with blood that has rushed towards them, engorging and increasing their sensitivity. Breathing starts to speed up and our heart rate increases. Erect nipples protrude from our chests as our arousal intensifies –the big O is near. The lower part of our vaginas narrow in order to grip the penis while the upper part gets bigger to give it a place to go. When we can no longer take the stimulation of nerves in our clits or g-spots, our body releases the buildup of tension. Involuntary muscles within our bodies contract, which is the cause of the “orgasm face” and gives explanation for the toe curling that is often described as happening when we reach an orgasm and cum.

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While our pussies are palpitating, the actual orgasm is happening in our brains. It is flooded with oxytocin, a powerful chemical that inspires feelings of closeness and intimacy.

Check out these other 26 facts out about orgasms that you may not know.

  1. The word orgasm is from the Greek word orgasmos, which is defined as “to swell or be excited.”
  1. Most women reach orgasms through clitoral stimulation. Only around 25% of women can reach an orgasm through vaginal penetration alone.
  1. After a man experiences an orgasm, there is a “refractory period” where they need to recharge. Because of this down time, men do not often experience repeated orgasms, though there are some claims of it happening. Women, on the other hand, can have multiple orgasms at a time.

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  1. Almost half of women have their first orgasm while masturbating versus having it during intercourse.
  1. Though some women use the excuse of “not tonight, I’ve got a headache” for not wanting to have sex, an orgasm can actually cure or provide relief for a headache.
  1. Vibrators were invented to help doctors bring women to an orgasm, for treatment of hysteria.
  1. A woman’s orgasm can last up to 20 seconds but the average length of time is around eight seconds.
  1. The inability to reach an orgasm after ample sexual stimulation is called anorgasmia; and is a common occurrence affecting a significant amount of women.
  1. Some people can reach an orgasm by simply thinking of an orgasm without any other stimulation.

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  1. Not all orgasms are felt with same intensity. They can be a subtle and mild relaxing feeling.
  1. Strengthening the pelvic floor muscles through Kegel exercises can help with the intensity of an orgasm. The contractions experienced during an orgasm may not be as intense if the pelvic floor muscles are weak.
  1. Many women don’t have to have an orgasm to enjoy sex. They claim the closeness and intimacy with their partner, alone, is gratifying and pleasurable enough for them.
  1. During an orgasm our bodies release the hormone prolactin, which causes the brain to produce more neurons in the smell center, or olfactory bulb, of our brains and heightens our sense of smell.
  1. An orgasm does not increase the chances of conception as was once believed in the early 1900s.
  1. August 8th is International Female Orgasm Day. It was established to raise awareness of female sexuality and to encourage women to be more open about discussing their sex lives.
  1. Men’s orgasms stimulate the same area of the brain that heroin does.

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  1. Wearing a condom doesn’t affect the quality of an orgasm.
  1. The ability to orgasm, for those that achieve it, does not stop at a certain age. Some people can experience them past the age of 90, though the duration of orgasms tend to decrease as we age.
  1. For some women, stimulation of their nipples can increase their chances of having an orgasm as well as the intensity of it.
  1. Vaginal lubricant and female ejaculate are two types of fluid that are associated with the female orgasm.
  1. Women who feel secure in their relationships are more likely to experience an orgasm.
  1. The French refer to an orgasm as the le petit mort, which means “the little death”.
  1. Some women experience orgasms while giving birth.
  1. While steroids, cocaine, and dopamine have positive effects on orgasms, anti-depressants can have a negative effect on them.

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  1. A female in London set a record in 2006, for the most orgasms in a single masturbation period of 49 orgasms.
  1. It’s been reported that a high number of women, around 67%, fake orgasms.

That last one is something that I’ve thought about a lot; I’ve also had a lot of orgasms. I will never understand how a woman can fake one and it be believable. I guess a woman could fake the moaning part, like Meg Ryan did in the famous orgasm scene in “When Harry Met Sally”, but we lose control of both our minds and bodies for a certain amount of time during and after an orgasm; that can’t be faked.

I originally wrote this for livingloving.com.

Masturbation Monday

It’s Masturbation Monday in my world – the world of erotica. I figured it would be appropriate to write about something that you don’t hear talked about often but no doubt happens…..maybe often, too.

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Female masturbation. OMGosh, females masturbate? Yes. Yes, we do.

Women might not talk about it like men do but I will; and we do. Masturbation is perfectly natural, safe, beneficial to our health in many areas, and allows us to explore different things that we like and ways we enjoy being touched. It gives us a better sense of our own bodies. There is nothing to be embarrassed or feel guilty about when it comes to self-pleasure.

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Masturbation is perfectly natural, safe, beneficial to our health in many areas, and allows us to explore different things that we like and ways we enjoy being touched. It gives us a better sense of our own bodies. There is nothing to be embarrassed or feel guilty about when it comes to self-pleasure.

Humans and animals, of both sexes, masturbate and have been for as long as we’ve been around. The ability to bring ourselves to a climax without having to depend on someone else to do it for us is as convenient as it gets. Especially today, where most families consist of two working adults separated many nights a week.

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Some families with children have parents that work opposite shifts to alleviate child care expenses. Military families are often split up for months at a time. There are single parents don’t make time for themselves to have a significant other. Then you have women that have husbands who are home all evening and night that simply masturbate because it feels good……because it does feel good.

Doctors used to treat women with hysteria, which was attributed to sexual frustration, by getting them off with clitoral stimulation. They first used their hands until the practice was cause for concern within the medical community and the vibrator was invented to do it for them.

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When we orgasm there are many different stress relievers taking place in our bodies. Neurochemicals that affect different areas of our brain surge through it giving us a feeling of ecstasy and elation. Masturbating to climax can help with menstrual cramps, migraines, and anxiety.

We can have a couple different kinds of orgasms. Clitoral orgasm by stimulating our clits and vaginal orgasm through vaginal penetration and stimulation of the G-spot. You might even be brought to an orgasm by stimulation of both areas combined.

There are several different ways for a woman to masturbate. It really is a personal preference as well as what works best. What works for one may not work as well for another.

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Some women may choose to masturbate with their fingers by rubbing their clit, fingering themselves and brushing against their G-spot, or a combination of both. Some women massage one of their breast or squeeze their nipple with one hand while pleasuring herself down below with the other.

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Vibrators and dildos can help bring you to a climax quickly and some women only masturbate using one of them. Personally, I love having an orgasm from using a vibrator on my clit. It’s electrifying, to say the least.

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You can reach a clitoral orgasm by grinding yourself against something too. Some may rub themselves against something soft like a pillow while others may like grinding against something harder like a the edge of a table.

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Some women masturbate using water too. They allow the water from the faucet in the tub to run down onto their clits or if they have a tub with jets in it they angle themselves above the jet and let the rushing stream of water spray them into an orgasm. Another thing that is nice to have is a removable shower head with adjustable speeds. You can take the shower head down and change the speed of the stream of water to your desired strength and hold it against your clit. The pressure of the water spraying against you feels amazing and is sure to bring on the big O; just be careful and make sure you don’t slip and fall.

There are tons of different ways to get yourself off; the possibilities are endless and the choice is yours to make. Masturbation is about pleasing yourself and that is what you have to do, find what works to please you and go fu*k yourselves!

I originally wrote this for livingloving.com.

Ridiculous State Sex Laws That Make Ya Go Hmmm….

Are you familiar with the sex laws in your state? If not, ya might wanna check them out. You could be breaking the law if you’re having sex in any other position besides missionary, giving or receiving oral sex, or even having sex with the lights on in your bedroom.

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Y’all say what ya want about Kentucky, at least we’re allowed to get down and dirty however we please.

Alabama

Women may not initiate sex while hanging around a pool hall. The only balls getting action in a Bama pool hall are numbered 1-15.

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Alaska

Moose are not allowed to have sex on city streets in Fairbanks. Moose banging in the back yard is fine though.

Arizona

You can’t have sexual relations with a rodeo clown in an elevator on Tuesday. Rodeo clown sex is better on Wednesdays anyway, duh.

Arkansas

Oral sex is considered sodomy. Oral, not Oval Office sex.

California

A condom must be worn by anyone having sexual intercourse with Satan. Noted.

Colorado

Keeping a house where unmarried persons are allowed to have sex is prohibited in the city of Alamosa.

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Connecticut

In Hartford, it is illegal for a man to kiss his wife on Sunday. I’m betting whoever made that law sure loved their football.

Delaware

Condoms may only be sold by doctors and wholesale druggists.

Florida

Unmarried couples may not commit “lewd acts” and live together in the same residence.

Georgia

All sex toys are banned. No virtual va-jay-jays for you boys.

Hawaii

It’s illegal to appear in public wearing only swimming trunks. This isn’t really sexual but I’m thinking the only sex on the beach they want is served up in a glass.

Idaho

If a police officer approaches a vehicle and suspects that the occupants are engaging in sex, he must either honk or flash his lights and wait for three minutes before approaching the car. (Woulda been nice for this to have been on the books in Kentucky my senior year…for my friend, of course.)

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Illinois

Having an erection in public is illegal. I bet that’s hard.

Indiana

Oral sex is illegal. Mustaches are too if the bearer has a tendency to habitually kiss other humans.

Iowa

Husbands aren’t allowed to take more than three gulps of beer while lying in bed with their wives or while holding them in their arms.

Kansas

Anyone caught engaging in anal sex draws a maximum sentence of six months in jail.

Kentucky

Dogs may not molest cars in the city of Fort Thomas, which is funny because in a town not too far from there, the mayor is a dog. Yeah, these are my people.

Louisiana

The LA House of Representatives hurriedly approved a unique anti-streaking law. Under it, streakers can be sentenced to five years in the state penitentiary and given a $2,000 fine for streaking “while intending to arouse the desire of minors.” Streaking with only the “intent of arousing sexual desire” brings a violator a $100 fine and one year in prison.

Maine

Condom sellers must be licensed and the license must always be on public display.

Maryland

It is illegal to give or receive oral sex.

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Massachusetts

False teeth must be removed during sexual intercourse. They should’ve included foreplay in that one.

Michigan

Single guys and gals caught in the act of sex can be fined as much as $5,000 and they could be sentenced to as many as five years in prison.

Minnesota

Oral sex is prohibited AND it’s illegal to sleep naked. Damn y’all’s luck.

Mississippi

Shacking up (AKA-living in sin-this is the Bible Belt) with someone instead of marrying them could get you a $500 fine and six months in prison for “adultery or fornication”.

Missouri

It is a high misdemeanor for a man to force his wife to sell sexual services on the streets.

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Montana

Missionary style is the only position allowed between a man and a woman. Yikes.

Nebraska

Anal copulation can get you 20 years in the penitentiary. Wonder what the punishment is once you’re in there?

Nevada

Sex without a condom is considered illegal. Maybe they adopt kids there?

New Hampshire

In Kidderville, Lingerie can’t be hung on a clothesline at the airport unless the undies are carefully hidden from prying eyes by a suitable screen. A clothesline in an airport? And I’m called a hillbilly because I have one on my front porch.

New Jersey

The law threatens men with a three year sentence for mutual masturbation. The law covers anyone who, in private, is a party to an act of lewdness or sexual indecency with another.

New Mexico

In Carlsbad, no couple should engage in a sexual act while parked in their vehicle unless their car has curtains.

New York

Women may go topless in public, providing it is not being used as a business. Unless you’re breastfeeding, then all hell breaks loose.

North Carolina

A man cannot peep through a window at a woman. However, a woman is allowed to peep into a room occupied by a man. A man may also peep through a window at another man.

North Dakota

In Grand Forks, it’s against the law to not confine a dog or cat in heat. Women, on the other hand, are not required to be.

Ohio

Anal intercourse is banned in the Queen City (Cincinnati). It’s also illegal for more than five women to live in a house. They may be onto something there.

Oklahoma

It’s illegal for the owner of a bar to allow anyone inside to pretend to have sex with a buffalo. OK!

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Oregon

It is illegal to whisper dirty things in your lover’s ear during sex. Scream those sweet nothings at the top of your lungs.

Pennsylvania

Oral and anal sex are illegal.

Rhode Island

Oral sex is considered abominable, detestable, crime against nature and such activity can land you a 7 to 10 year stretch in the penitentiary.

South Carolina

It is illegal to give or receive oral sex.

South Dakota

Copulation by means of mouth threatens a 10 year prison term.

Tennessee

In Skullbone, a woman cannot pleasure a man while he is sitting behind the wheel of any moving vehicle. Any man that is stopped and found with the front of his pants undone can be fined a minimum of $50 and serve 30 days in jail.

Texas

Single adults that are apprehended while having sex are charged with a misdemeanor and given a $500 fine.

Utah

Adultery, oral and anal sex, and masturbation are considered sodomy and can lead to imprisonment. Sex with an animal, unless performed for profit, is NOT considered sodomy.

Vermont

In Beanville, it’s against the law for a road map to be printed and sold or given away if it contains advertising of a lewd or lascivious nature.

Virginia

Not only is it illegal to have sex with the lights on, one may not have sex in any other position than missionary. Prudes.

Washington

It’s legal to have sex with an animal, as long as it weighs less than 40 lbs.

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West Virginia

In Huntington, Firemen may not whistle or flirt at any woman passing a firehouse. Whistling and cat calls are a turn-off for most anyway, good on y’all.

Wisconsin

A man may not fire a gun while his partner is having an orgasm. He can shoot a different kind of load though.

Wyoming

It’s against the law to entice, allure, instigate, or help a person under 21 masturbate. The activity is known in legal circles as an act of self-pollution. Alcohol consumption isn’t the only reason folks there look forward to their 21st birthday.

I originally wrote this for livingloving.com.

5 Ways To Keep Your Vagina Looking Young & Sexy

As we get older, it’s not only the visible parts of our bodies that age; our vaginas do too. Years of wear and tear begin to add up and the appearance of the land down under changes. Just like with our faces and hair, there are ways to hang on to our youthfulness down there for a little longer.

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Avoid chemicals and scented products.

Contrary to what our mothers and grandmothers believed, you should not use a douche. Our vags are like our ovens, they are self-cleaning without any chemical agents. Using one can cause irritation, lead to yeast infections, and change the acidity level (pH) of our treasured boxes. You should only use a mild, non-fragrant soap on the outside of your vagina. Never use scented menstrual products; unscented is the way to go. And you should avoid using lotion on your va-jay-jay.

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Drink plenty of water and maintain a healthy weight.

Drinking water keeps your skin hydrated, which keeps it moisturized, healthy, and looking young. There are different opinions on how much water we should drink daily but it’s recommended that we drink eight 8 oz. glasses or half a gallon. It’s called the 8×8 rule. Eating right and maintaining your weight can have an effect on the appearance of your vagina too. Gaining and losing weight will stretch the skin down there. Staying at or around the same weight will avoid that.

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Exercise your Kegel muscles.

Kegel exercises help strengthen the pelvic floor muscle, which can be weakened by many things including pregnancy, childbirth, being overweight, and aging. If you’re not sure which muscle that is, cut off your urination midstream. The muscle that you use to do that with is your pelvic floor muscle. Tighten your muscles and hold them for five seconds before relaxing them. Work yourself up to being able to keep them contracted for 10 seconds at a time, resting an equal 10 seconds between them. Try for at least three sets of 10 repetitions a day.  You can also use Ben Wa or Duotone balls, which are inserted into the vagina and held in with your Kegel muscles, stimulating movement and vibration.

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Trim or shave your pubic hairs.

The hair on the top of our heads isn’t the only hair that starts to gray as we age, our pubic hairs do as well. Trimming your hair or shaving it off completely will help hide its aging appearance.

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Have safe sex and use lubricant.

Keep your vagina healthy and young by stimulating and increasing blood flow to it by being sexually active. Orgasms help with this and they also work your pelvic floor muscles. Reduce your risk of an STD by having your partner use a latex condom or you can get a female condom so you won’t have to rely on him to wear one. Using lubrication helps prevent stretching and tearing of your vaginal walls when your body hasn’t produced enough lubrication which can happen as we age.

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Aging isn’t something that we can avoid, unfortunately, but thankfully there are steps that we can take, mixed in with a little common sense, that can delay the change in appearance of the process. Be good to your vag, after all, she’s made you feel good throughout your life.

I originally wrote this for livingloving.com.

Why Do Men Stare At Breast? Epic VIDEO Explanation

Men love to stare at breasts. They can’t keep their eyes off of them. Try having a conversation with a man while wearing a shirt that reveals the slightest bit of cleavage and I’d bet the farm you’ll lose eye contact with him at some point as he refocuses on your chest.

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So, what is it about breasts that make men so attracted to them?

Watch a man get busted halfway through a conversation with a big breasted blonde. She starts to let him have it but he interrupts her to explain his reason for his wandering eyes. His explanation is epic. See for yourself; I’ve got to admit, I ‘Atta Boy’d’ him.

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I originally wrote this for livingloving.com.

10 Fetishes That Are More Common Than You Think

Fetishism is the term given to explain a sexual attraction to objects, situations, and body parts not typically thought of as sexual. It originates from the Portuguese word feitico, which means obsessive fascination. Fetishes are the objects of the intense focus. Only through use of said object can a person with a fetishism reach sexual gratification.

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There was a time when fetishes were considered taboo and weren’t talked about in every day sex conversation; there was a time when regular vanilla sex wasn’t even talked about. Since we’re not afraid to say vagina and cock anymore; and Al Gore’s initiative of creating the internet, we can discover and educate ourselves about every single desire and detail of sex and sexual behaviors one can imagine. And believe me, if you can imagine it, there is probably somebody that’s into it. Happy searching.

Here are 10 more common than you may think fetishes that I took the liberty of searching for you.

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Podophilia

Sexual arousal by the foot itself or just a part. Satisfaction is found in the smell, taste, and look of the foot. Pleasant foot fornicating!

Voyeurism

Sexual arousal and gratification by watching naked people or people having sex. Sometimes this is done with full knowledge of the person being watched and sometimes not. So, the next time you’re riding your man and you feel like someone’s watching….. Nah, just kidding.

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Mazophilia and Pygophilia

 Fetish for tits and ass, aka what every man likes fetish, respectively. Kidding again. In order for it to be a true fetish the person cannot be sexually fulfilled without seeing, touching, or feeling one or the other. I am a boob girl; love them. They aren’t a requirement for me to cum though so I can’t say I’ve got a boob fetish. I can say I love me some boobs though.

Plushophilia

Furries fetish is when people dress up in furry animal costumes. They gather together from time to time to live out their fantasies. This doesn’t always include intercourse. Sexual activity in the furry life is called yiffing. Furries aren’t to be confused with another group called Plushies, which are sexually gratified by an actual stuffed animal. Some men purchase stuffed animals with appropriately placed holes, replicating the vagina and anus.

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Paraphilic Infantilism

Also called Autonepiophilia and Adult Baby Syndrome, it’s the term for grown folks that aroused by being cared for and treated like they are big babies. I’d have no desire to start life over but there are a lot of folks that do. People with this fetish might drink from bottles, wear diapers and big baby clothes, crawl, and talk in baby talk.

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Latex Fetishism

This fetish involves wearing or having a partner wear latex, rubber, or leather. It’s not only the look and feel of oneself or another in the outfit but it’s said that for some, the smell of the material alone is a huge turn on and factor in this fetish.

Lactophilia

Erotic lactation is the sexual arousal of breastfeeding from a female’s breast. I think this one is pretty self-explanatory. Thirsty, anyone?

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Pictophilia

Sexual arousal and reoccurring intense sexual fantasies from pornography or erotic art –particularly pictures is what this fetish is about. Another fetish to be thankful for the internet by those that have it.

Urolagnia

Sexual arousal by urinating on or being urinated on by someone else. This fetish is also referred to as water sports. I’m sure there are plenty of folks that are into this; I am kinda thankful this one missed me.

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Whatever gets you off, fetish or not, it’s your thing and should be embraced. What works for one may not always work for everyone but that’s with everything in life; sexual interests and fetishes especially.

I originally wrote this for livingloving.com.

Blowjobs: Not Just for Men

Before I start, we need to tackle something that will help you be all you can be when you’re going down on him. Blowjobs are NOT JUST FOR HIM!

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If that is what you think, you need to get that thought out of your head –no pun intended. They can be extremely arousing for us girls as well; and make for a more lubricated and enjoyable sexual experience. He will be even more stimulated knowing that you are turned on by it too.I love being on the giving end of oral sex almost as much as I like being on the receiving end. I don’t just say that because I’m one of those naughty erotica authors. I’ve been giving blowjobs longer than I’ve been writing erotica and I enjoyed it then just as much as I do now.

With that out of the way, let’s get down to business and talk about the four things you need to know when you’re going down on him.

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  1. Make eye contact with him.

Guys love blowjob eyes. Making eye contact while his dick is in your mouth enhances the connection between the two of you. That doesn’t mean you have to stare at him the whole time; that would be creepy. Look up at him from time to time with a sultry look in your eye. Let him see that you are enjoying the pleasure you are giving him.

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  1. Use more than your mouth on more than his shaft.

Use your hand or both of your hands as well as your mouth. Wrap one hand around the base of his shaft and stroke him while you are sucking on the head of his dick. You can drag your fingers of your free hand gently along his sac or massage his balls; change it up – there’s no right or wrong way of doing it. He will respond to your touch like never before.

And while we’re talking about his balls and sac, he will enjoy you licking and sucking on them also. They are part of his package and need lovin’ just as much as the rest of him.

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  1. Make joyful noise.

You can always tell how much your partner is being pleased during any sexual act by the noises that he makes. When he is moaning, sighing, and gasping for his breath you know that you’re doing it right; it’s non-verbal communication between the two of you. The better things feel, the more vocal we become.

It’s such a turn on for me to hear my man moan when I’m giving him head and it makes for an even better time for me.

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As I stated before, your man will enjoy and appreciate his blowjob more when he knows you are just as into it. How will he know? Yep, the same way you know that he’s loving what you are doing……by the noises that you make. If you are truly into it those noises should come natural. I’m not telling you to fake anything. Some girls hold back and try to silence themselves. Don’t; let loose. Not only will he love hearing you moan, knowing that you like what you’re doing to him, he will feel the vibrations of your moans against his dick, which will intensify his pleasure.

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  1. Suck it up and swallow.

If you are giving him a blowjob as foreplay and don’t intend to make him cum from the blowjob, this isn’t as important as the above mentioned things. However, if it’s only a blowjob that you’re giving him this is crucial. It’s a known fact that guys love when a girl swallows their cum.

It’s not going to hurt you. Your stomach acid will kill any bacteria that may be in it. You can’t get pregnant from swallowing it. In fact, there are many health benefits from swallowing your man’s semen.

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Some girls might think it tastes nasty. Granted it doesn’t taste like chocolate or bonbons but the shots we throw back at the bar or party don’t always taste good either, yet we still manage to down them.

It doesn’t make you a bad girl because you’ve swallowed his cum either. It’s an intimate thing, yes, but you’ve just had his most prized possession in your mouth. That in and of itself is just as intimate. Think of it as the grand finale for you. And if it does make you feel like a bad girl, embrace it and own your naughtiness. He loves a bad girl in the bedroom too but we’ll talk about that another time.

I originally wrote this for livingloving.com.

Does Penis Size Really Matter?

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I wrote an erotic short story on my blog a few months ago that involved a 6 ½ inch strap on dildo. A reader left me the following comment:

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I used to work for an old Navy SEAL. Almost daily he would tell us girls, “It ain’t the size of the boat, it’s the motion of the ocean.” And that was my reply to his comment, as I agree with the Old Salt 100%.

Am I alone in my belief? Does the size of a man’s penis really matter? Some women think so.

I can make myself cum by thought and a few Kegel exercises; so a dick -of any size, is just fuel for the fire for me. I know I’m going to cum whether he’s a two incher or one that’s been Heavenly blessed.

Our G-spots, also called the Grӓfenberg spot (for German gynecologist Ernst Grӓfenberg), are only about two inches inside of our vaginas. I’ve seen small dicks; even the smallest that I’ve seen was bigger than two inches. If he’s lacking length, he’s still going to be able to reach the G-spot through penetration, which stimulation of causes our orgasms during intercourse. The 6 ½ inch dildo in my story was well able to reach this golden button.

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We also have clitoral orgasms. We can have that kind of orgasm, too, during intercourse as long as the position that we are in allows for the clit to be stimulated – all about the motion.

There are several positions that will help reach maximum stimulation for the less endowed. Here are a few.

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The Eagle

The female lies on her back and lifts her legs towards the ceiling and spreads them as far apart as she can. Her partner kneels before her with his knees spread apart. He can hold onto her legs to support himself and penetrate her deeper.

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Doggy Style

The female gets down on all fours. He kneels and penetrates her from behind. He can hold onto her hips and control the rhythm and speed. She can also rock back and forth to meet his thrusts. This position also allows for her to reach between her legs; and play with her clit or his sac to add even more pleasure for both.

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The Splitting Bamboo

The female lies on her back and puts one leg up over his shoulder. He straddles her other leg and penetrates her. He holds onto her raised leg to support both of them. Her hands are free which allows her to tease her clit and/or massage her breasts putting on a sexy show for her man.

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Reverse Cowgirl

The man lies on his back and she straddles him, on her knees, with her backside towards him. The woman is mostly in control in this position, though bucking against his cowgirl from time to time makes for a better ride. She supports herself by holding onto his thighs or his ankles and grinds her pussy in whatever motion she wants against his dick. The reverse cowgirl position is the way to go to maximize both clitoral and G-spot orgasms.

No matter the size, doggy style is by far my favorite position but the reverse cowgirl is a very close second!

I originally wrote this for livingloving.com.

How Long Should Sex Last?

Sex; how long should it last? Hours? Minutes? According to recent studies, the average amount of time of actual intercourse is between six and eight minutes.

That sounds laughable if you think about it. It’s true though. Just about or a little less than the time it takes to play two songs. Factor in the amount of time we spend on foreplay and we’re nearing half an hour which is better but still not the all-nighter we have all been promised at some time or another by a stud that thought he was God’s gift to women.

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When we’re bumping and grinding we get caught up in the pleasure of the moment; sweating, moaning, thrusting against each other, maybe a little ass smacking, and hair pulling. Who cares about how much time has passed?

As long as he doesn’t cum as soon as I take my clothes off or after a couple thrusts and I get mine before he busts a nut, the amount of time we spend connected to each other isn’t as important me.

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The two of you can each get great pleasure from foreplay. If you aren’t happy with the total time spent getting down and dirty, focus more of your attention there. Try something new that you haven’t done and go slow.

Different things do factor into the duration. Stress, nerves, the level of comfortability between the two of you, and the last time he fired one off are all things that will play into how long he can stay in the game. There are a few things that he can do to try to extend his go time, thankfully.

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If he hasn’t got off in a few days he will go quicker. He can empty his barrel by jacking off earlier in the day. He will last longer if he doesn’t have days’ worth built up begging to be shot out.

While you are having sex, if he feels like he’s going to blow too early, have him pull out and play with or suck on your breasts till the feeling passes. Breaks can be a good thing. He doesn’t have to stop for long. Five or ten seconds should be enough time for it to pass. You don’t want him to lose his erection.

Guys can also try biting down on their tongues when they feel it coming, if they aren’t ready to go quite yet. They don’t have to puncture their tongue but they need to put enough pressure on it so they feel a little pain. The pain overrides the pleasure they are feeling for a short time and can lengthen their stay. It’s more of a mind over matter type thing….baseball, baseball, baseball.

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Try changing positions. Missionary and doggy-style put more pressure on the most sensitive part of his penis. If you’re in one of these two positions and he feels his orgasm is near, stop and climb on him. He’s about to go anyway. Riding him is a position that stimulates your clitoris the best and will help get you on your way to an orgasm before him.

Ladies, I do need to say this…..there will be a time when nothing he does prevents him from blowing his load before you orgasm. It happens. It’s frustrating as hell for us but it isn’t the end of the world. Don’t be too hard on him. He probably wants to climb in a hole and die already. There are other ways that he can finish you off and you can always finish yourself off if need be.

If there are any guys reading this and you have another cherished secret that may help your fellow man, comment below and let me know!

I originally wrote this for livingloving.com.